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Lockdown Blog #16 - Modern Family


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As I sit and write this blog, the 16th in our series, it dawns on me that it is getting harder and harder to think of ideas which don’t sound like we are repeating ourselves. We’ve talked about relationships, talents, friendships, happiness, kindness, confidence, faith, imagination, and probably even more which I have forgotten to mention. So, what was there left to talk about? I imagine there is so much, but I sat here for ages with no ideas coming to mind.


While all this was going on, I had a program on in the background. A series which many may know, but others may not have a clue. A program named ‘Modern Family’. For those of you who don’t know, Modern Family revolves around three different types of families living the Los Angeles area. This mockumentary explores the many different types of a modern family through the stories of a gay couple and their daughter, a straight couple and their 3 children, and a multicultural couple and their son. As I watched this it made me begin to realise that throughout our blogs, Darren and myself make regular references to our families.


When you hear the word family, what do you think of?

Does family mean those who are blood related to you?

Is family those who you have spent the majority of your time growing up around?

Maybe family means your closest friends?

There are so many different descriptions around now that can describe what the word family means, and although the dictionary definition says: ‘a group consisting of two parents and their children living together as a unit’ it doesn’t make any other way of looking at the word family less true.


We have all these labels and names being passed around our world now, but sometimes they don’t mean the same thing to ourselves as they would to someone else. It may be that there is no comfort shown towards them, the word family especially can be tough if you have not had a great experience with family. It might be that we feel there is no connection shown, we can’t show any relation to that word, to those experiences, and we’re still trying to find a place where we fit in and where we can find our sense of ‘family’.

Well that’s ok. You don’t need to feel bad about that. You don’t need to worry about that. Everyone struggles sometimes, everyone has that stage of finding who they are and where they fit in. Everyone takes time to find that place where they feel comfortable, where they feel at home, where they feel part of the family.


Within ‘Modern Family’ there is an episode where one of the daughters, Alex, is graduating from her school. She has been given the opportunity to be the valedictorian (the student who delivers the closing or farewell statement) within her ceremony, and has a speech all prepared. Her original speech was basically going to slate her classmates, because she felt that was the best thing for her. However, Alex’s sister confronts her and tells her she is making a mistake, telling her the only person she would be harming is herself. Alex’s sister states that she should just quote song lyrics instead. Alex is not convinced and decides to go with her speech anyway. The time comes and as she steps up to the mic, she begins her speech, but as she looks out over all the faces, she spots her sister with her hands in her head, and this convinces her that maybe her speech isn’t the right way to go.

Instead she says this:


I find it ironic that I'm up here representing my classmates when...they're so...awesome, they should be up here themselves. But I'm up here, and I'm saying stuff because everybody's got their...stuff...whether you're popular, or a drama geek, or a cheerleader, or a nerd like me. We all have our insecurities; we're all just trying to figure out who we are. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't...stop...believing...and get this party started!


It was at this speech that it struck me; this is what I should write about this week. This is what everyone deserves to hear. That, especially in a time like this, although we don’t know what the future may hold, that we all have our own ‘stuff’ and that we’re all trying to figure out who we are, we shouldn’t stop believing.

It took Alex’s sister talking to her to realise this, and although you may not have siblings yourself, or maybe you don’t feel close to your family, look around you. They may not be related by blood, they may not be that dictionary definition of family, but if they are close to you, who says they can’t be in some way your family?


Blood may be thicker than water but love is thicker than anything

– Goldie Nash


Whoever you class as family, as long as there’s love, no one can tell you you’re wrong.


- Antony.


This week’s resource…

Series: Modern Family (PG Rating)

Can be found: Netflix

About: Modern Family revolves around three different types of families living the Los Angeles area. This mockumentary explores the many different types of a modern family through the stories of a gay couple and their daughter, a straight couple and their 3 children, and a multicultural couple and their son.

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