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Blog #31 - There's No Shame in Fear

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Does anyone feel like we are any closer to being back to ‘normality’ yet? Can anyone, hand on heart, say ‘I’m back to living a lifestyle exactly as I did before’? I really hope not. Not because I don’t want you to be back to a normal lifestyle, but because if you do feel like you’re not doing anything differently, then maybe there’s something you’ve missed. Even something as minor as wearing a mask means that your lifestyle is different, because it wouldn’t have been a part of the attire which you picked before. However, saying that, we are definitely seeing things return. Places are opening (and closing again) and schools have now been back for at least a week, if not longer in some places.

For some, this is great. But for others, this may still be a very scary time. Maybe you, reading this, are unsure about it all and still a bit fearful, and that is ok! Fear is a strange thing because no one really likes to talk about it, but everyone experiences it. When I was chatting to Darren about what to write this week he looked up some random questions and one of them was ‘What is your biggest fear?’ and I genuinely said to him ‘Nothing, I’m scared of nothing’… but that’s not true, it was just an initial reaction to reply that.

Why do we feel like it’s a subject that shouldn’t be talked about? As humans I think no one really likes to show weakness. Interviews will always ask ‘what are your strengths and weaknesses’ and it’s always such a hard question because you don’t want to big yourself up, but at the same time you don’t want to put yourself down. The weaknesses are usually the hardest to think of, and I think for most, Fear would be put in the category of a weakness. But that’s not a bad thing, and I want to emphasise that being afraid of something and showing fear is not a bad thing! It’s natural, and everyone experiences it.

As I said, we all have fears and things that make us uncomfortable and nervous, and for me you’re about to have it in writing, so don’t use it against me… please.

Mine are heights and mice/rats. I don’t know what it is, but for heights my legs just feel all strange, almost like I don’t trust myself that high up (even the image I picked this week made me feel uncomfortable), and for mice there’s something about them that just makes me feel uncomfortable and want to divert around them at all costs (unless they’re someone’s pets, I can deal with that). I’m not afraid to admit it though, and no one should be afraid to admit they have fears, and also at times, to face those fears!

Now for some of you the fear that you may be feeling at the moment is of returning back to things in your life, when there are still so many doubts around Covid-19, and that is ok. Don’t feel like that’s wrong or strange just because your friends don’t feel it, everyone is different and handles things in their own. Talk about it, chat with someone close to you about how you’re feeling, work with them and see how they may be able to help.

In ‘A Clash of Kings’ which is the 2nd book in the ‘A Song of Fire and Ice’ series (Game of Thrones) George R.R Martin writes:

There’s no shame in fear, my father told me, what matters is how we face it.

If there is one thing you take away from today’s blog, let it be that, because everyone at some point in their life will feel the same emotions so don’t be afraid to show them. Don’t be ashamed or feel bad about being afraid. Talk about it, share it and build from it.

- Antony.

This week’s resource…

Film: Inside Out

Can be found: Disney+

About: After young Riley is uprooted from her Midwest life and moved to San Francisco, her emotions - Joy, Fear, Anger, Disgust and Sadness - conflict on how best to navigate a new city, house, and school.

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